20th Wedding Anniversary

I only have time for a short entry now, but I wanted to mention Helaine and my 20th wedding anniversary today.

When you get married, twenty years, or any concrete goal, is the last thing on your mind. You want your marriage to work – period. Everything else follows that.

I was totally confident the day I got married. I knew she was the one for me. I had been married once before. I was scared the first time – not the second.

Of course that commitment didn’t come quickly for me. There was a long period of time where I tried to avoid a permanent relationship.

The marriage works because I trust and respect her. I never question Helaine’s reason for doing something. There is no subtext, no hidden agenda.

I am very lucky, and I hope she considers herself lucky too.

Years ago, my dad told me when he married my mother, he made a commitment to fidelity. I think it has served them well for over 50 years. I have that same commitment. A marriage is built on trust.