Helaine and I have been married 27 years. That’s a lot of time together. You learn a lot about your partner.
A few years ago she let me know there was a tapping ritual I performed every night after I brushed my teeth. Same taps against the sink with the brush EVERY night. I didn’t know!
Ray Romano jokes about couples deciding which side of the bed they’ll sleep on for the rest of their lives… the first time they sleep together.
With all this in mind I thought I’d tell you about our cuddle positions. We have three. Cuddling is very important for all the usual reasons, plus Helaine keeps the house cold enough she could be arrested as a slumlord!
We begin the night spooning, both on our right side. My left arm is over Helaine. We’re not sure where my right arm is–probably under my pillow.
After a while we do a 180 and Helaine spoons me. At this point she normally fixes my pajama top.
The third position comes much later. I’m in the original spoon position, but Helaine is on her back and her legs are over mine.
At some point we part and sleep the rest of the night separated.
How did this all come about? Got me.
We assume most couples have some sort of ritual like this… but if I’m wrong break it to me gently.