Life Will Be A Roller Coaster For A While

My phone’s been busy. Making calls. Getting calls. There are arrangements made and still to be made. There are friends and relatives to tell.

We’ll be flying to Florida Tuesday. My mom will be buried Wednesday. We’ll be back in California late Wednesday night.

I’ve been looking at all the notes on Facebook. It will be impossible to fully respond. They are appreciated.

Old friends have popped online. Former co-workers and neighbors too. And, of course, viewers back in Connecticut. Thank you all for your concern and support.

It is an awkward time. No one knows quite what to say. Calls are tough to make and receive.

My dad is doing OK. I’m sure his world is disjointed at the moment.

Can you really absorb something like this all at once? Life will be a roller coaster for a while.

9 thoughts on “Life Will Be A Roller Coaster For A While”

  1. Geoff, my heart, our hearts go out to you and your family, especially your Father. No, you can’t absorb this all at once. It is a day by day, one foot in front of the other and trying to hold your head high in respect of your Mother. You need to know and accept that yes, your lives have changed suddenly and drastically. However, remember: honor your Mother with your daily life and take good care of your Father.

    It has been ten years since I lost my Mother and I miss her more and more but I treasure my memories and hold her in my heart. You will do the same.

    Judi Paes

  2. While riding that emotional roller coaster, just know that you, and your family, are in our thoughts & hearts….from here in CT to CA.

  3. Know that all of us who have gone through the loss of a parent understands what you are going through. Thoughts and prayers are with you.

  4. Geoff: No matter how much we try to prepare, when it happens, we are not prepared. Just remember that slowly the deep hurt will pass and only the loving memories will remain. May her memory be a blessing to you all.

  5. Geoff and Family-
    I offer you my heartfelt condolences. A loss of a parent is an extremely traumatic thing. May her soul rest in peace.

    Mike Tucker, W1MCT

  6. Geoff:

    My family went through this almost a year ago with a basically healthy 92-year-old Mom. She fell and broke her hip, and it went downhill from there fast. It was–and continues to be–difficult. We were all (3 siblings) very close to my Mom. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

    Doris Castagno

  7. Geoff,

    When my Dad passed in 2010, my older siblings decided against a funeral and went straight for cremation. I know everything is messed up now for you but once you have the actual ritual of saying goodbye, I think all this overwhelming numbness will come through. Be sure to have tissues. I wish I had a ceremony to say goodbye to my Dad. Never less, I was told from others it is what happens after that bothers them the most. Everyone just goes back to their lives, leaving you alone. I had exactly 10 people tell me they were sorry for my Dad’s loss in person over the course of 3 years. I miss my Dad every day. He was 72. The pain never goes away, it just becomes more manageable over time. I suggest to stock up on your favorite ice cream for those 4AM tears. I still have them myself. I’m sorry for your grief – I wish passing on didn’t cause the heart to ache so much.
    <3 thinking of you and your family, especially your Dad. <3

  8. Geoff, wrote you in another post, but just wanted to add, “Hang in there”, one moment at a time, and keep busy the best you can! I hope all the posts of support you are getting help you through!
    Thinking of you with a heavy heart!

  9. You’re in my thoughts. I’ve been there — when my dad passed a few years ago it was a roller-coaster ride for a while. What they never tell you is what the bureaucracy of it all will be like … this isn’t meant to sound flip, but beware the mounds of paperwork that await your family!! My mom is still dealing with some of it.

    Another thing I learned is that you can still have conversations with your mom in your head – she’ll hear them! And the answers you get will definitely come from her, too.

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