I had a little time extra tonight so I scanned Facebook looking at my friends’ posts. I suspect most people who friend me because they know me from TV don’t think I look. I do. I read your words and often peruse your photos. I don’t see everything because of the volume that comes from having around 4,000 friends!
From time-to-time someone will post something that strikes me and I’ll reply. It’s a shot in-the-dark. This is usually my first contact with a friend since accepting their initial request.
I did that tonight.
A Facebook friend was upset TV coverage cut away from the football game when there was an injury. I thought that was unusual. Then from her profile I saw that was her training! This was professional curiosity speaking. It made sense for her, but in the abstract it was an odd reason to get upset.
I hit reply and posted something… I don’t remember the exact words, but it ended by saying it was nice to have a Facebook friend who was a sadist (or words to that effect).
Obviously anyone who read her wall (her real friends) would get he joke. She didn’t!
I got an angry message from her mom.
Your assumption and post alluding to the fact that her comment made her a sadist was insulting to both her and to me. Why would you jump to such a conclusion and, better yet, make it in such a public way? Couldn’t you have sent her a private message, as I am doing with you now, instead? After she explained herself in a reply, I was sure you would respond and waited a while before sending this message. I was trying to decide whether you were kidding or whether you were protecting your public image. I now believe you were not kidding and XXXX’s public image is just as important to her and me as yours is to you. She was so insulted about your comment that she deleted it from her page but, as far as I am concerned, the damage was already done…as most assuredly that comment showed up on the News Feed pages of all those who are Facebook friends of the both of you. I would like to see an apology to my daughter in the same public manner as you made the comment and hope that you will actually do so.
Yikes! I was only trying to be friendly by popping in on her wall, but no good deed goes unpunished.
Now instead of “Guess who wrote on my wall?” she’s probably saying, “What an a***ole.”
I replied to her mom. Hopefully my apology is accepted.
I spent a great deal of time as Stef was growing up trying to get her to understand intentions are often more important than results. I hope my former Facebook friend’s family feels that way too.