Update: My Buddy Kevin In Scotland Has Disappeared

Kevin Lyon
Just before Christmas I noted I’d lost track of my friend Kevin, a fellow pancreatic cancer patient from Scotland. He and I had the same diagnosis and underwent the same surgery and treatment.

We met via Twitter and chatted a bunch. We understood life in a way others couldn’t.

And then he disappeared.

I got an email this morning about Kevin. It was what I’d feared and expected.

Hi Geoff, hope are you well. This is Claudia – I was the former partner of Kevin Lyon (Scottish).I have seen on you blog that you are looking for Kevin. Unfortunately he passed away on December 6th. He is in heaven resting.
Thank you for your caring – I’m praying for you.

Best regards.


It’s a horrible disease. Stories like Kevin’s remind me how very fortunate I am… how lucky really. I put up with a lot of shit, but I get to live. I am cancer free.

Why me? Why not Kevin? No one knows.

19 thoughts on “Update: My Buddy Kevin In Scotland Has Disappeared”

  1. Geoff,
    I’m so sorry about your friend Kevin. My heart goes out to you, and his family. It was so nice of Claudia to let you know.

  2. Oh Geoff, I am so very sorry to hear of the loss of your friend. Life really has no explanations does it. Thank God you are here and doing well….Im sure you were a real comfort to your friend.

  3. So sorry to hear your friend Kevin passed, Geoff. And some questions you ask just don’t have answers. Only God knows, and it seems to me, He needs you to stay here until He decides when it’s your time. You know not the day nor the hour when your soul is required of you. So, keep being the guy we all know and love. I’m praying for Kevin – and always for you.

  4. Some questions have no answers. I’m so sorry for the loss of your friend — how thoughtful and caring of his partner to let you know of his passing. However, we are all happy that you are still here with us. Rock on.

  5. Yup! I know this monster very well Geoff! I lost my wife at a young age 18 years ago to breast cancer. Then I lost my Dad to the same beast you’ve locked horns with, 12 years ago, and then my Mom last July to a combination of lung cancer and dementia! I know the dreadful toll it takes on both victim and care giver. I WILL NEVER BE THE SAME PERSON I WAS BEFORE CANCER INVADED!!! Every time I hear victory stories like yours, it brings a smile to my face to know that the devil of cancer just got a good swift kick in the balls! Congratulations on your test results, and I hope you have many more years to tell a survivors tale! God Bless!

  6. I’m so sorry for the loss of your friend. Keep your chin up Geoff, there are lots of people sending prayers and good wishes your way. You must be glad you’re on the left coast given the recent storms hitting home. You stay clear of the mudslides, you hear?
    Dave Neto

  7. Sorry to hear of the loss of your friend. He is not suffering anymore…poor comfort, I know. Hoping you keep on your getting better track.

  8. We never know what will cross our lives.

    As you know, as you did respond, I was following your blog about the cancer ( and before)
    and during this time my husband started not to feel well and died 19 days after he was at
    Smilow being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer that had spread to stage four and was untreatable.

    Three months beginning to end.

    I still look for him and sometimes I hear him call my name.

    But people do survive it.. so know that though it may not be a large percent quite obviously that percent
    has to be someone.

    Why not you?

  9. Wow how sad Geoff. That had to be a bit of a shock for you! So sorry for the loss of your friend in many ways.

  10. I’m so sorry Geoff. Only God decides who he wants to call and when he calls. My friends tell me that I have been spared because God doesn’t want the comotion I would bring! So he leaves me here where I enjoy more gifted time with my family. It will be 5 years since I was diagnosed. I was cancer free for two years and then there it was in my lungs! I had some chemo and the nodules shrank. Slow growing so I have decided to forego chemo and will only opt back in if the start to grow. I feel so blessed to be able to “work”, enjoy my family and friends and do some traveling. I really do view every day as a gift from God. Enjoy your time with Helene, your family and of course your cutie Doppler. And do what you love! We obviously are still here for a reason.

  11. Oh Geoff I am so sorry to hear…we are all so blessed to have you with us. I always look forward to your posts and blogs. Cancer is horrible and random…I lost my dad when I was 12 and did not understand why…but back then people feared cancer like AIDS and we all felt so isolated. Thankfully medicine has come a long way and because of that you are here. You are also a reminder that life is precious, something we often take for granted. God bless.

  12. Hi Geoff,
    I’ll pray for Kevin that he may rest in peace and enjoy Heaven, and I’ll be praying for your continued healthy improvement and being cancer free.

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